9 Steps to Start Living a Happier, Drama Free Life

Do you spend too much of your time worrying what other people will think about you? Do you let that effect the decisions you make in life? Many of us are guilty of this in some way or another. After 32 years of life, I have now learned…

You will never be able to make everyone happy and should have no desire to. Make peace with this and stop trying!

Once I learned this, I learned how to start living my life. After years of unnecessary drama, I am now at a point in my life where I no longer care about it at all. I don’t want to be a part of it.

Even before the Marie Kondo hype, I’ve always asked myself, “does this bring me joy” (mainly about things in my house). I never keep anything that isn’t useful as I absolutely hate clutter. But as I get older, or should I say wiser 😉 I realize that clutter doesn’t only come from objects. It comes in many different forms, from thoughts in our head to unfortunately toxic people in our lives. So now I’m incorporating it in all aspects of my life. If it doesn’t bring me and my family joy in some way, it will no longer consume my precious time. We all get the same 24 hours in a day, we don’t have control over that but what we do have control over is how we spend that time.

We are in control of our own happiness.

Here are some ways I’ve learned to ‘spark joy’ in my life and things I try to remind myself of daily.

Make Peace with Your Past & Simply Forgive. Did someone do you wrong? Well, simply forgive. Not for the sake of them deserving the forgiveness but for the sake that you deserve to let yourself free from it. You can put it behind you and continue with your life without dragging that drama with you. The past is the past for a reason.
Don’t Compare your Life to Others & Especially Don’t Feel Judged. Comparison is the root of all evil. You have no idea what it took that person to get where they are so don’t judge them. This is hard now a days especially with social media. Everyone is putting their business out there. But guess what, they’re only putting what they want you to know, right?! You have no idea about their entire journey, and they don’t know about yours.
Don’t Over Complicate Life. Are you an over-thinker? Do you worry about the unknown? This is something I too work on daily. Sometimes we must take a leap of faith and just do it. Especially with two little kids, my days are pretty much unpredictable. I have to be okay with that and go with the flow.
Entitlement Kills Your Dreams. The world does not owe anyone anything. Once you understand this you will start achieving your goals. If you want something in life, work for it, put a plan into action and go get it. Don’t sit there waiting for someone to hand you something because you think you deserve it.
Have Confidence. Believe in yourself. Stand behind your decisions with confidence. It’s ok to listen to others advice but at the end of the day filter thru it and make your own decision.
You Will NEVER Make Everyone Happy and that is OK! With every decision there will always be someone that is not happy with it for whatever the reason. This doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. It just means your decision wasn’t right for them.
Stop Worrying about Other People’s Success! Re-purpose that energy to make yourself successful. This goes back to not comparing yourself to others. When you are happy for people instead of being envious, you will turn your thoughts more positive.
People Will Always Have Their Own Opinions. Just know, it’s exactly that. Their own opinion. Whether deciding what college to send your kids to or asking people to wash their hands before touching your newborn, you will always get unwanted opinions. Smile and nod and move on with your life. The decisions we make for our kids is what we feel is best as their parents. Don’t let others alter that decision. Again, this doesn’t mean to not listen to other’s advice. It just means that you should listen, digest it and make a decision that is right for you and your family.
Stay Away from Toxic People. Time is too precious to waste it on anything or anyone that is just simply negative. People that never have anything nice to say, people that always play the victim, people that are jealous, self-centered and who simply just don’t care. Those aren’t your people. Stick around those that lift you up!